A Positive Mind
Your prescription to a more fulfilling life.
First published in What Medicine Magazine and Live it Naturally 2006/7
The Power of Believing
With a positive mind there’s a benefit; and that’s you discovering an entirely new and wonderful person! That someone currently lies dormant within you. You will discover a new-found happiness, an exciting self, and soon that internal you will be externalised, allowing you to have a joyful and positive attitude at all times throughout your life; even when you encounter problems or difficulties.
Creating a positive mind only requires your commitment to it, and making it work for you. No matter how strange a way of thinking it may seem to you at first, the more you put into it and practise it, the more rewards you will reap.
This month we’re going to discover the power of ‘believing’ – and how you can change your life in a few simple steps. I’m sure that you’ve been told sometime during your life that if you ‘have faith’, that you ‘truly believe’ in something, then it really will happen. I know a lot of people don’t completely accept this idea, and then there are those who say they’ve tried practising it but have never achieved any tangible results. But there are also those who are living examples of this thinking – and they are the people who truly practise the ‘power of believing’ and have tremendous success too.
Researchers have found that what we think and the state of our mind has a direct effect on our life, our current reality and on how healthy we are. In particular a number of recent scientific studies have examined the ‘power of believing’ and how beliefs impact on our health. Those who believe they are sick and are going to die will not cope nearly as well as those who ‘believe’ they can recover and will survive. Many doctors have discovered the power of positive thinking – for example specialists at the Sloan-Kettering Cancer Centre in
America are teaching cancer patients how their beliefs can make a difference to their chances of survival.
What you believe is WHAT you get – I think that just about sums it up nicely. Again there will be those of you who may not accept that entirely; but this is what happens when you believe something. If you believe that relationships are difficult and require a lot of work, then you will only attract people who will make your relationships difficult, or influence you to put a lot of work into them. Or if you worry about something happening to you, you will quite likely, over time, generate that scenario – a sobering thought isn’t it!
Of course that doesn’t happen all the time; when you worry, a small part of you is still hopeful of a positive outcome, and this helps avoid a complete disaster. However if you were only to worry about some future event, considering only the worst case scenario, certain of a negative outcome, then you’re in line for a pretty miserable time. However there’s more to ‘believing’ than merely creating beliefs. Possessing a positive belief system is just the first step to creating a more successful life.
Let’s take an example – you might have a positive attitude about money; you believe there are plenty of ways to make money, yet you only ever seem to have enough to get by on. Money comes in, and money goes out again – there never seems enough to create a more relaxed feeling about having plenty. That’s because somewhere deep in your subconscious you may be saying the opposite, that you will never have enough money, who are you to think you deserve so much more.
Many of us have been brought up not to ‘believe’; society surrounds us, envelops us in believing life is tough, that we have to fight to get ahead, or even stay afloat. We’re taught that if you can’t see it, touch it, then it’s not real, non-existent, that it’s an unacceptable way of going about our lives.
Believing something, is trusting that your deepest desires can and will happen. Believing is leaving no room what-so-ever, not a nanosecond of doubt that what you want will happen. So many of us in the rush and confusion of modern life are missing this element. Each day is taken up entirely at the beck and call of others, leaving little or no time for ourselves – time necessary to create our own future and fulfil our greatest ambitions. If you truly believe that you can be happy, and achieve those dreams you have, then you will transform your life.
I’m going to ask you three questions.
• Do you believe, without a moments doubt that you can and will have exactly the life you desire?
• Do you believe wholeheartedly you will be guided to those goals, those desires, those right situations to get where you want to be?
• Do you believe there is always a way to achieve your goals, even when you have setbacks?
If you wavered on any part of those questions, then you don’t ‘believe’, and you won’t achieve the life you want. To ‘believe’ is to trust entirely that everything will work out – that you have it in you to find solutions and a way of achieving your goals.
Let me give you an example of true ‘believing’. If you’ve been fortunate enough to have had a beautiful son or daughter, or perhaps more than one – think of the first time you saw them – did you ever doubt for a moment that they wouldn’t grow up; be able to walk, to talk to you, it was only a matter of time. Yet when you first held your child in your arms, it was incapable of doing anything. It couldn’t feed itself, tell you what it wanted, or how it felt, it couldn’t walk, it couldn’t do anything for itself. But did you ever doubt it wouldn’t develop these skills? The answer is no; not for a moment did you believe this beautiful child would not grow up, be able to walk, and talk, and communicate with you and the world.
Now, that is the sort of belief I’m getting at, that’s exactly the belief structure you need in place to achieve your goals. You have to BELIEVE that what you most desire will come to you – without a doubt, you must trust that it is within you to create everything you wish for.
Ok you might be saying, I now see the truth in what you say, but how do I get that belief structure into my psyche. Well firstly you will get there by taking small steps. By setting small goals for yourself, even goals that you know will happen, then you must trust and let go – let go of doubt, just let go and let these things happen. Sounds a bit too simple? Right, lets take a simple scenario; going to work, driving, taking the train or bus, however you travel, simply trust you will get there on time, then let go – you will find you arrive on time, with no stress, you’ve had an easy trip.
Try this. Next time you lose something, your car keys perhaps – tell yourself you know where they are, trust you will find them – then let go; do something else for a moment and see what happens. I bet you find them! Your subconscious knows exactly where you left them, when you relax and trust, a vision will come into your conscious mind reminding you where you left them.
When you have a tough decision to make, in fact any decision you’re not too sure about, tell yourself that you will come to the right conclusion, believe you will find the best result for you and those involved – then let go. That is the key, learn to let go, trust and let go, believe it will happen, disengage for a while. After a time you’ll discover the answer to your question, any question.
Worry is the reverse of trusting and believing, by worrying we’re saying we don’t believe, but at the same time trying to convince ourselves that we can make it better, but you can’t – so disengage, trust, believe and see what happens. Develop small goals into your daily life, and then when you need to make the big decisions, you will trust the process and know it works – you’ll ‘BELIEVE’ that great things can happen for YOU too!
Copyright: Simon Lawrence